Marriages are truly made in heaven. But, in today’s world this statement is not true. When two people unite and decide to spend the rest of their lives together, only then they can be considered for marriage. Sadly in the current scenario, two people meet and get married without even knowing much about each other. They marry because of a few reasons. Some of them have issues with growing age, infatuation and various others. No matter what reason you have, the decision of marriage should not be taken in a few seconds.
If you sign up for singapore counselling you will get materials such as books, videos, and instant messenger consultations. All of these can be recorded for you, so you can study them later. Traditional therapists usually get you in and out in about an hour. This can cause information overload, how can you be expected to remember everything?
I therefore assured K. that since I’m not a lawyer, I was not going to replace her decision making process and try to produce the answers for her. It was my place as a Psychologist and a Life Coach to try tofacilitate the process of EMPOWERING her decision making, allowing her to boost HER ability to produce the best possible outcome through HER own personal choices and decisions. It was my job therefore to help her continue on the path she had herself finally chosen to start. Communicating with her husband had to wait.
As K. spoke she seemed to relax slightly. I visualized her as someone who after a long hard period of traveling was able to take off their load and relieve themselves of a heavy burden. Soon she continued with her story becoming more at ease as she went. “I am ashamed to admit my main reason for not divorcing is money. I also feel a little ashamed that this would be my second divorce and I worry about how that would affect our children.” K. confided in me. “I deeply loved my husband when we were first married. I still love him and worry about him if we divorce. I don’t know how to be in love with him anymore and I don’t know how to want it to work like he seems to want. I don’t know why I can’t pull the trigger and just end it, or suck it up and take him back and try again.” K. told me.
K., I said, there was no good ‘quick fix’ Relationship Advice reply for your situation. Quite honestly, there was no simple solution to such a very complex situation like yours. I advised her that Marriage Counseling that take some weeks and months, was very much needed if there was to be any chance of her relationship building itself back together again.
N. confronted her husband about his behavior and he confessed “I had been an exhibitionist for 20 years.” N. was shocked by her husband’s revelation. She decided to stay in her marriage until she recently felt like she had done everything she could to try to hold it together.
For the first tip you will want to grab paper and pencil. Go ahead and give a piece of paper to your spouse and begin writing down the things that you see are going wrong in the relationship. Have your spouse do the same thing. Once both of you have wrote down the things that you think are going wrong, begin to discuss them with each other and try to come to a compromise to fix these problems.
If you’re still doubting just try one session, and see what you think. You’ve got nothing to lose, and you’ll be glad you made an effort to repair your marriage.